So yesterday I turned 30, completely mind blowing. Such a strange feeling.
Remember when you were younger and you thought that your parents didn’t understand and they were wrong? It’s funny how the things they said start to make sense...
If only I knew then what I knew now. BUT. Life is a journey, about progression and learning as we move on.
I’m thankful to have such an amazing family around me, a beautiful supportive wife, the kids and my parents. They help me push to be the best I can be.
And to my grandad. You would have been 89 today. This is the second birthday that I’ve had to do on my own and it gets no easier. I’m not sure it ever will. Thank you for everything, you are always on my mind.
To AK Active, the absolute dream that myself and kimberley have made a reality. We couldn’t wish to ask for a more amazing group of people. It’s hard to conceive that somehow we’ve managed to get such an amazing bunch of supportive, inspirational people together. You’re all absolutely amazing and we can’t wait to see the vision develop further.
I decided to write down 30 points that I wish I knew when I was younger, things that I’ve learnt that have helped me develop into who I am today. They have helped me to become more disciplined, more organised, less reactive and overall more successful. On the surface the points may seem vague, but look a little deeper if you’re struggling to find the meaning.
These points will form the chapters of my upcoming book. I wanted to write something to help people avoid the pitfalls I did. To have a strong positive mindset and for them to be able to be confident and achieve whatever they set their mind to.
Turning 30. Surreal.
But knowing that the best times are ahead.
Hopefully these points can help you. Print them out, stick them somewhere you will read them often.
1. The world won’t stop turning. Don’t feel guilty about switching off and going again tomorrow.
2. Travel. Experiences over everything.
3. If you’re waiting for the perfect day, you’ll never get started. If the sun doesn’t shine, you need to learn to dance in the rain.
4. You are replaceable at work, but not at home. You’re away from your loved ones for at least 8 hours a day, how much time together are you missing?
5. Time passes faster and faster as you get older, more apparent than ever in 2020. We blink and it’s Friday. That’s why it’s important to take action and do what you want to do before it’s too late. Don’t hold back because you will regret it.
6. Step back and do something for you. We constantly serve others. Our bosses, our families. You’re only at your best for them, when you take a little time for you.
7. Your life is a book. Imagine if you read it, would you enjoy it?
8. Don’t set the bar too high, you’ll fall short. Set small goals and meet them until you win big.
9. Motivation will come and go resilience will get you to the top.
10. Your pain can fuel you or break you, two completely different routes of life. Don’t let it be the latter.
11. Your mind is your own worst enemy. It’s all about perception. You naturally think the worst. You need to overcome that.
12. Things seem worse than they are. Take a breath, the world isn’t ending, this is just another puzzle for you to solve that’s going to make you stronger when you come out the other side.
13. Do your homework. Always be prepared for the day ahead.
14. Be consistent. Doing one thing a thousand times will prepare you better than doing a thousand different things. That’s what gets results.
15. Look back and reflect on your journey because sometimes we can get bogged down with everything that we have to do. In reality we have come on a long way. Recognise your wins.
16. Step out of your comfort zone, only then will you truly grow as a person.
17. Write stuff down, trust me you’ll forget. Have a notebook by your bedside or on your desk.
18. Take a breath. Think positive rather than reacting negatively. See how you can better approach the situation.
19. Your confidence is higher when you take care of you, from the perspective of both mind and body.
20. Get thrown into the deep end. It’s the best way to learn, and the scariest. It makes you perform.
21. Don’t be reactive, be proactive. You’ll be better prepared for what life throws at you.
22. Anger is pointless and destructive to your progress. Every time you get angry, your journey suffers.
23. No matter what position you’re in. If you’re reading this, there is somebody, somewhere worse off. Be thankful.
24. A new way of thinking yields new results, stay open minded.
25. If you focus on something hard enough, it will materialise, dream big, set goals and don’t stop thinking about them until you achieve them.
26. If you think you can or you can’t, you’re right.
27. Keep digging, you never know how far away from gold you are.
28. Material things only make you happy in the short term.
29. A good community is absolutely priceless. Find one, create one and immerse yourself in it. They are supportive for both mind and body.
30. Success can be found at any point in life, so don’t give up.
Leave me a comment and et me know if any of those points resonate with you. And please keep an eye out for my upcoming book!